Pauline Ronan - Find yourself and move forward
About six years ago, I was feeling lost, stuck and a bit invisible. How could it be that I had a
successful job, a great family, a lovely husband, and son, but I was no longer sure who I
After having a baby and moving into middle age, I had put on some weight which made me feel
frumpy and lethargic, which only added to my low energy. I had lost my spark for life! I was
plodding along and blending in, but not living my best life, as me!
I knew there was more to be had. I didn’t want to be on the side-lines anymore! I really wanted a
change and an exciting new purpose but I didn’t know what I was looking for or how to get it. I
wanted to grow into my own skin and start to really feel connected and fully alive as my own best
friend! I wanted to offer myself kindness and compassion. I wanted to feel good and look good from
the inside out, but I had to find the tools to make these ambitions a reality.
As I mulled over these desires, I decided it was time to make a change! I began to explore yoga and
meditation to see if they could help me find out who I was and what I was missing. I had to really
think about what I actually wanted out of life and what did I need to do to move forward?
I was excited to learn that by reframing scenarios in a positive way that I could feed my brain a
positive message instead of having the negative soundtrack playing in my mind. I realised that the
imagination is such a creative tool, but it can also enable you to waste time creating imaginary
negative scenarios in your head that might never happen.
With my improving perspective on life, I made the decision to start running which released the
serotonin and endorphins in my brain that made me feel good. I returned to that enthusiastic and
curious person who wanted to experience more and enjoy life to the full. With my new running
routine, I was delighted to find I was able to lose a stone in weight. Running also opened
connections to my local community and allowed me to meet so many lovely new friends. In 2018 I
ran my first marathon which felt like a pivotal moment in this truly incredible journey.
The game-changer for me was discovering coaching; to say it was a revelation is an understatement.
From feeling in a place where I was lost, uncertain of who I was and what I wanted my coach showed
me how to have a voice to explain what my dreams and goals were. He helped me to visualise what I
wanted my future to look like. All these techniques, amongst dozens of others, allowed me to feel
fully alive again!! I had developed the confidence to make exciting changes without the fear of
I started to think about how I could use my new-found knowledge and enlightenment to help
others. I started to realise just how many people, particularly women, felt like I had. I realised that
sharing positivity and using reframing could help people to move forward quite quickly, instead of
lingering in the same repetitive and negative story over and over.
I am now so happy to say I am an NLP life coach and am well on my way to being a Human Givens
Psychotherapist. I have my own coaching business called ‘StepForward- Coaching’. I have become
an author with another five books being written. My work allows me to offer people the tools to move
forward with a big emphasis on exercise, meditation, and visualisation. I love what I do and feel
delighted that I can help an individual to transform by enabling them to access their own innate
I would love to help you blossom. I would love other people to experience what I have experienced
and to realise that dreams do happen as soon as you remove any limiting beliefs and really allow
yourself to dream big and let your light shine!!!
Pauline’s book ‘The Pocketbook of Positivity and Reframing’ is available from Amazon for £7.99.
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Speed date questions:
What was your first job?
My first job was as a farmer’s daughter in Ireland where I grew up. I helped my dad deliver piglets,
milk cows, and collect the eggs from the chickens on our farm. I was a pretty good cow chaser and have helped to feed baby lambs with a real milk bottle! It was good fun and I was always in my
wellies or else on the tractor or in the lorry with my Dad! As one of six children who are all girls,
there was never a dull moment! It taught me the power of hard work and resilience.
What are you reading now?
I am currently reading ‘The Choice’ by Edith Edgar. This beautifully written book reminds us that
even in the darkest of moments in our lives, there is still hope, something to be salvaged, something to be learned and always something to live for. We are not going to get over huge life events quickly, in fact, we may never get over them at all, but we can learn to live with them through finding joy, understanding, and gratitude for the smallest of things in life.
If you could give your younger self advice what would it be?
I would love to go back and tell my younger self to trust in who I am, that I should love who I am,
warts and all. That everything will be okay and that there is nothing to be afraid of. I would also tell
my younger self to laugh more and not take things too seriously and mostly that I am good enough to be whatever I want to be! We spend so long in our own heads thinking and interpreting
comments people have made and actually most of it is just our theatre of imagination working
overtime! Finally, I would tell myself to start running and meditating sooner as this enables you to
problem solve and teaches you how to breathe better and feel in control, putting one foot in front of the other!